The Law of Attraction

These last few weeks have been really interesting. Since I have been knee deep in book stuff, my 1st love--“Relationships” has had to take a back seat. Although, I have plans for a 3rd book which will be about the roller coaster ride called “Single Life” which is the reason for this blog today.

I’ve had three close girlfriends meet some really nice guys. All three lovely ladies are what we call “ready for THE relationship" but in the midst of meeting these “nice” guys all ladies were missing the “IT FACTOR”. This got me to thinking about the law of attraction. I wondered how is it that a good guy can meet a good girl but pass up the relationship because the spark is missing, especially when each individual is ready to settle down.

I was flipping through the TV while on commercial break from the Olympics and I ran across the movie “Something New”. The beautiful woman in the movie had a hard time giving in to a good relationship and when she finally let her guard down to let the man in, the first mistake he made she hightailed it for the hills. Shortly thereafter, she met another great guy but the spark was not there so she gave in to her heart and back-tracked to the 1st guy. Thank goodness it was a movie with a happy ending because he was still open to the possibility of a relationship. Both women and men are some complicated creatures. Just when you think you’ve got them figured out, they throw a monkey wrench in the deal and all bets are off!

So is this attraction thing so important that we pass up a good thing? For many it is…but what happens when you meet that person you know you aren’t suppose to be with but the attraction is there? You push so hard to make the relationship work when you know the relationship is wrong. Either he or she isn’t treating you right, giving you the time and attention you deserve, not ready for a commitment when you know that you are or any of those red flags that tell you to move on. Is the law of attraction so important that we compromise our desire to be loved the way we deserve to just to be with someone that makes our boat float?

I certainly understand not wanting to wake up next to someone that I am not attracted to but I wonder if we cut the ties too soon because attraction can come in many different facets. There are many traits such as a beautiful personality, sense of humor, adventurous, interesting, cultured, confidence, style, and many other traits that don’t have anything to do with physical attributes. So, before you throw in the towel on that person that you don’t feel the immediate draw too take a look deeper into who the person is, you never know they could blossom like a swan and very well be the person for you.